Love can be hard to receive when we're not fundamentally convinced of our own lovability.

当我们不认为自己是可以被爱的时，我们很难去接受爱。

People just caught on to her lovability.

大家都喜欢她的可爱。

If we aren't totally convinced of our own lovability, another person's affections could be a bit unnerving.

如果我们不是真的信服我们自己可爱之处，他人自然而真诚会有点使人无能为力。

But it was probably adolescent insecurities about lovability which inspired it. We often project present anxieties well into the future.

或许是青少年对爱缺乏安全感激发了这首歌的诞生。我们总是把现在的焦虑融入未来。

We can interpret their love, not as a sign of their delusion or weakness, but as evidence of an inherent lovability in ourselves

我们不再认为他们爱我们是因为受骗或性格软弱，而是因为我们值得被爱。

An ideal, compassionate figure at the start would have known never to equate lovability with perfection, they could have cared for us despite out coming last in the race, our missteps and our confusions.

一个理想的、有同情心的人在一开始就知道被爱不必完美，当我们在比赛中垫底、犯了错和感到迷茫之时，他们仍会给予我们关怀。

As psychotherapy recognises, we universally require a dose of what is termed 'healthy narcissism', a sense of our lovability and rightful place in the world bequeathed to us via the approbation of kindly and enthusiastic care-givers in our early years.

正如心理治疗所认识到的，我们普遍需要一种叫“健康自恋”的心态，即在童年时期满怀善心和热情的监护人赋予我们的，一种我们值得被爱的感觉，以及我们能够在这个复杂世界找到自己正确位置的感觉。